Extended Breastfeeding, the bond past baby

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When I started breastfeeding I set myself the goal of breastfeeding until 6 months, with both children that 6 month goal came and went and I saw no reason to stop.

With my first, at the start of my breastfeeding journey it was a real struggle, I wasn’t alone in finding breastfeeding hard and the thought of sticking with it for the NHS recommended 6 months felt like a nightmare.

Many of my friends gave up, I didn’t blame them, I wanted to give up, but I am stubborn, tenacious and competitive I was not going to let breastfeeding beat me. I was competing with myself to meet my goal and if I had to combination feed or express I would.

For the first month or so I did combination feed, I expressed, I cried – a lot, but I didn’t give up. I don’t know when but at some point it hurt less, at some point it got easier. I can’t put my finger on the exact time but by 3 months I was breastfeeding and enjoying it, and by 6 months then 12 months, I didn’t want to stop.

Extended breastfeeding becomes a beautiful experience, those night feeds with just you and them, an exclusive club with your own VIP.

At 6 months we did baby led weaning with both my children, both my children took to this well and in the next few months breastfeeding went from being about nutrition to being about bonding.

My babies still got the nutritional benefits but they didn’t need to feed every meal, I noticed when I was at work my boobs weren’t getting as full, my children weren’t needing as much. I was not a milk machine I was mummy.

People criticised, ‘they are using you as a dummy‘, but what is a dummy if not a comfort, I became my child’s first port of call for comfort.

No ailment or upset couldn’t be cured by Mummy and Mummy’s boobs, they were getting lovely antibodies from me and lovely snuggles too.

Extended breastfeeding becomes a beautiful experience, those night feeds with just you and them, an exclusive club with your own VIP.

The Bond Past Baby

they are my babies and they may not remember those night feeds, but they are etched into their hearts, as they are mine.

Feeding your baby, but a toddler in the eyes of others shouldn’t be unusual but it was. I felt I needed to justify my decision, especially with my son who was very big for his age.

I had no intentions of giving up, but my children had other ideas, I got ill with my first hen he was 12 months, a serious kidney infection that needed antibiotics that were not breastfeeding friendly, it was resistant to penicillin so I had not choice but to stop temporarily. My big boy decided that was time to stop and never went back to the boob.

My daughter wasn’t pushed by outside factors, she just decided herself she was independent enough to stop at 14 months, I tried to push her to carry on but she had made up her mind.

Now I miss breastfeeding but extended breastfeeding has left the bond. I am still who they turn to, they still snuggle into my breast for comfort, they are my babies and they may not remember those night feeds, but they are etched into their hearts, as they are mine.

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